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Firstly I apologize, this is not about marriage directly.? But I'm without proper resources and this seemed like the most reliable place to get some imput.

This however, is about my 'best' friend.? We've been friends the longest.? We've gone through a lot together.? The breakup of her marriage and the long struggle for it to be

put back together.? The ups and downs of my marriage and the illness of my youngest child.

My friend came to the Lord a little over four years ago and I rededicated my life back the the Lord at the same time.? We both walked through some healing at the same time.

But over the last year I have noticed little characteristics of our friendship that has not been healthy.

I believe that it had been/has been codependant to some extent.? When in crisis she would call and I would show up.? Didn't matter what time of day or night.? I put her above my

own family.... above time with my husband.? Until this last year.

I've been backing away and trying to prioritize and put my family first (after God).

I cannot approach her with these thoughts.? I do not want to hurt her.? She is still dealing with some pretty heavy issues right now in her journey.

I do have some of my own healing I want to be able to walk out without the added pressure and expectation that our friendship has brought in the past.

I do love her as a friend and want to see her happy and free.

I have enabled her behavior and have actually enjoyed being 'needed' in those crisis moments (and there has been a lot of them).

I do not know what to do or how to handle it.

I think we both have a different definition of what 'best' friend means.? She struggles with loneliness. I do not.? I like one-on-one with people. She is into groups and doesn't like to be alone.

I feel at times she wants me to be more like her, to do what she wants to do and enjoy what she enjoys and have the same goals and vision.

Some of that is ok...but I do not feel like I can be totally free.

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Help.

Any insights

Source: http://www.focusonlinecommunities.com/thread/21719

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